Change doesn't have to be scary

Sunday, July 15, 2018


Change is such a big little word. Change seems to be the only true constant in this world. Yet we all seem to fear it and fight it tooth and nail. Though this makes no sense I can kind of see why we feel this way.
Change can be very uncomfortable and no one wants to be uncomfortable. Even if you are not in a comfortable position how do you know the change will help? You can not always predict how a change will affect you and the unknown is scary. Sometimes things are just fine the way they are so why go changing anything?

I get it, the truth though is you are going to face change. Some changes will be gradual. You will age, and with this comes a whole host of changes we all fight and fear. Some are more immediate and unexpected. You could lose your job and I do not need to tell you all the changes that come from that type of event. 

Most changes are more simple and less noticed but changes we fight and fear none the less. Some of us are worse than others. We eat at the same places all the time and we have had the same haircut since the 3rd grade. Some of us are fine with the little things but the big things stop us, like changing careers or cities.

We here at Apothekayla are all about change. Our inception was born of the need to change the way we treated our body. Our growth came with the need to change the way we treated our souls. Our passion came when we changed the way we lived our life.

Changing the way we treated our health was not easy and the size of the change made it scary. The alternative was scarier still. The realization that what we used to clean our home, care for our bodies, and what we ingested in our foods could have serious effects on our health was scarier than the thought of having to relearn what we thought we knew about healthy living.

After doing our best to remove what we thought was an obstacle to our heather physical-selves we addressed what was an obstacle to our happier-selves. This opened questions about our careers, where we lived, and how we lived.

We are by no means masters of change. For example, I own the same pair of pants and shirt combo in four colors, you know what I mean if you have seen my recipes with Rob series.  Still, we have managed to make a lot of changes over the years and I have some advice on how to get through it if you care to listen.

My first piece of advice is to direct the change. Not every change is going to be ones you see coming as I have said, but the ones you see coming are a lot less scary when you are in control. To do this you have to have your head up, your eyes open, and be proactive.

For example, don't wait till your sick to change your diet. "Sure, I feel fine now and fast food is quick and easy. Besides, it is only other people who have to worry about that kind of thing." I know I have had those thoughts my self. I could have continued down the path I was on to conveniently killing myself with food-like products or I could take control of my diet while I still had a choice.

Today I have a choice in how I change my diet for the better. I can choose to try all organic and all natural. I have a choice between veganism or keto. I know these choices and I can control them today. I could fear, avoid, fight or ignore this change and let my Oncologist make those choices for me later.




My next piece of advice is to take baby steps. In our quest to heal our souls we decided we needed to change toxic people, places, and things. So we spent everything we had on an RV to head out and explore the country. That was not a baby step and it was a big scary change. All the little steps that lead up to that big leap though gave us the strength to face that fear and make that change. 

We hade to change the relationships we had with family and friends. We had to change the way we made money and thought about work. We hade to change priorities about what we needed and what was important to our happiness.

Succumbing to your wanderlust may not be what you need to heal your soul or follow your bliss but for us it was. It was a big scary need that seemed imposable. It seemed almost easier to deal with all the little things that made life too uncomfortable to tolerate.   

Whatever your big scary need is though it is a lot less big and scary if you take it one small step at a time. Changing jobs may seem like a big deal now but, if you develop a skill you know you will need on that new job now, it will be less scary when you go to apply.  If you need to change your relationship with someone try calling less or calling more depending on how you want the relationship to change.

The point is you do not have to change the rest of your life today. All you have to do is change the choice you make now to align closer to what you need.  Each choice you make towards that change will bring you closer to it. Then one-day things have changed and you wonder what you worried about the whole time. 

Lastly, you have to have faith in yourself. Trust that you will make the right choices at the right time. You don't have to know what the entire journey will look like, only where you plan to end up. As long as you believe in what you are doing, stand firm in your decision, and always take positive steps forward you will accomplish your goal.

For me, I look to others for inspiration. Before we bought an RV I read as much as I could about others who had tried it. Though what I read was not always comforting, seeing others success made me more confident about my own. When we decided to do doTERRA as a business it was not all the facts and figures on the business that sold me it was seeing the way it had changed other lives.

Somethings though you just have to trust in yourself to be up to the challenge. Quitting my job to focus on our doTERRA business, for example, was a big leap of faith. While I have met others that make more in a month with doTERRA than I did last year, we are not there yet.  However, we have been doing this doTERRA business for a little while now and we are earning money. Kayla and I were at a point where we needed to invest more of our time to make more money... still walking away from the 9 to 5 and the path I set for myself when I earned my Masters degree is a big leap of faith.

Change is hard, it is scary, and it is coming. Whatever your change is I hope you embrace it or at least make it as easy as possible. We have written quite a few posts on our changes so if you are looking for inspiration for a change of your own I hope you find some in our past posts.   

If you are looking to follow our path with the doTERRA business we have plenty of baby steps to help you to make that big change.   


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Kicking ass with Keto

Tuesday, July 10, 2018


Guys!! I did it, another milestone in my weight loss journey is... well, under my belt.

I stepped on my scale this morning, and then weighed myself again to make sure... I have reached 120 pounds lost.

I still have 80 pounds to go but feel really confident that I'll get there soon. At this rate, of being dedicated to keto for 1.2 years, I have averaged 8.6 pounds lost each month.

This is a little slower than the normal keto weight loss ratio. I have PCOS which makes it really hard to lose weight at all.

I'm going to bump up my efforts and try to make my monthly average for the remainder of my 200 pound goal 10 pounds per month.

That will mean:

  • more water
  • more fats 
  • less than 20 carbs per day
I know I can do it and truly appreciate your continued support!

Here's to setting goals and working your ass off, literally, to achieve them!

Our trip to the fair

Tuesday, July 3, 2018

Last Saturday we were celebrating and decided to visit the San Diego County fair in Del Mar. Our doTERRA business has grown to a point that Robert will no longer have to work a regular 9-5 job. He will drive Uber 8-12 hours a week, during the morning while I am at work, and will tend to our growing doTERRA tribe in the afternoons. As our doTERRA business grows he will drive less Uber. The goal is to cut out the Uber altogether. However this new schedule is such a relief as we were having difficulties squeezing everything into our life. Now Robert will be able to focus more on our team and our family with this new found freedom.


Robert's very first job was at a fair, the Suffolk County Fair in New York. He was fourteen at the time. He was the errand boy who spent long nights blowing up all of the balloons and fetching things for the Carnies who ran the show. It is very fitting that we would visit the San Diego fair as we make this transition in our lives.

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This had to be the biggest county fair I've ever been to. The area of this fair dedicated to food was larger than the entire county fair I attended each year growing up. Before we even made it off of the highway traffic was backed up for two exits because of all the other people in San Diego who chose to visit the fair on Saturday. As we pulled off the highway I reached for my bottle of Balance blend to make sure I stayed calm. I knew I would be nervous due to the sheer amount of people.


This year's fair theme was how sweet it is. There was an entire exhibit dedicated to fun facts and historical timelines of America's favorite candies. Complete with a life-sized playable candy land game that guided you through the crowds of people and highlighted each candy display. The photo above highlights a famous painting made completely out of Jelly Belly jelly beans. This was one of many amazing renditions of famous works recreated with candy.

This exhibit was amazing. It was one of many huge exhibits to be found. We had such a great time walking through the art exhibitions featuring all of the best artwork from the students of San Diego County. Some of these kids have amazing talent. We would have happily displayed a few of these amazing paintings in our home. There were rows and rows of artwork. We didn't even see them all.


There were also separate exhibits featuring local hand made wooden furniture. We found the perfect table for our dream home. A round table, seven feet in diameter, with a hand-carved solar system in the middle. We could picture ourselves and our doTERRA business leaders having dinner and working at this table. Beside of the wood working exhibit I stumbled upon my favorite exhibition featuring crystals and gemstones. There were so many types of crystals. Both in raw form and carved into amazing works of art. The coolest part of the crystal exhibit was the florescent cave. A dark room lit only by black-lights. This room had several rows of crystals to show what each one looked like under a black light. I never thought to examine my beloved crystals in this way. I was super excited about this.

We didn't ride any rides or eat any food. We simply observed. It was fantastic. We walked so much on this Saturday of celebration that when we got home I immediately reached for the Deep Blue Rub to soothe my aching muscles. I also applied lavender to my shoulders where I had a few spots of irritation from the sun.

It was truly amazing. We are really excited to make this a regular yearly part of our lives. Thank you for reading and for celebrating with us! We are excited for all of the new things to come!

Make the rest of your life the best of your life, starting now! -Kayla


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